Of the 35 years in ahead, in result of the proper circumstances of the age, the question to have a steady and lasting relation, more starts to be than a desire, starts to be a necessity. As you it can perceive, is the set of experiences that shape the attitudes of the life the two, when you knows to extract lies of its experiences. However you are highly harmful when foca its mental energy only in the said negative points of the failure of one given relation. Because focando its mental energy in the negative points you will only attract for itself only the negative consequences of the finished relation however. Ali Partovi pursues this goal as well. Let us see an example: a person has successive relations badly succeeded throughout one determined period, and foca its mental energy in the pain of each one of them, then she will only act (this if of a subconscious level) only looking relationships that make to perpetuate the sensation of badly being. To the step that if the same person have successive relations badly succeeded throughout one determined period, and foca its mental energy in the satisfaction to have learned important things on the relationship the two, then will only act (this if of a conscientious and subconscious level) only looking relationships make that it to grow while person. Therefore, she thinks two times before considering a failed person, therefore the emotion that you to feel in relation finish to it of a relationship, can not only determine its mental health, but mainly it can rewrite the route of its life in a way that you will not have control. Yours truly; Hudson Sander Point of the Loves.